Monday, March 08, 2010

Much to Deal With

Hello My Friends,

It's time for a Mom update.  I'm sorry to say that her condition has worsened dramatically in the last two weeks.  The cancer has spread radically to her brain (affecting her sight and hearing), then esophagus (unable to swallow solid food) and now appears to be affecting her liver (Jaundice). She has lost a tremendous amount of weight which has left her quite frail. She has decided to reject a feeding tube and would like to live out her final days with the help of Hospice. 

My entire family is resolved in letting her pass on her terms, we are bracing ourselves for this outcome. Thank you all for your thoughts, kind messages and prayers, they are all appreciated.


Much love,

Shari

65 comments :

Dawn said...

I am so sorry to hear this news Shari.... it is very hard for everyone. My prayers are with you and your family.

Melissa Cash said...

Shari,

I always read your post, but rarely, if ever have left a comment. As I sit here tonight and read your post about your Mom, my heart is both happy and sad for you. I am happy that you were blessed to have your Mom in your life and sad that the time has come for her to say goodby. Your Mom is both courageous and honorable for making the tough choices she has made. To her I say "rock on". A few years ago I lost my father to the dreaded "cancer", he made some awesome choices near the end and for that I will always be thankful. I will keep you, your family and your Mother in my thoughts and prayers.

Eveline said...

Such sad news. I wish you and your family strength for the coming time.
Eveline.

Vanessa said...

I am so sorry to read about this, Shari! Wishing you much strength for this hard time. You and your family are in my thoughts!

Isha said...

Sorry to read about your moms condition Shari. Wish you and your family strength to go thru this difficult phase. I will be praying for you and your family.

Kath said...

thinking of you and your family shari...hugs kath xxxxx

Paul B said...

So sorry to hear your news Shari. You and your family are in my thoughts. I wish you strength for the emotional times ahead. Take care. Px

Paper Paradise said...

You are all in our thoughts Shari....... Sue and Paul xxx

Be(e) said...

A lot of strenght for the oncoming rough times to you and your family! I'm so sorry to hear this bad news!

Godelieve said...

So sorry to read this sad news...
Wishing you strength.

Rockstar Mommy said...

You and your family are in my thoughts. So sorry you have to go through this.

Lin said...

Dear Shari, so sorry for this sad news. Sending hugs and prayers for you and your family.

Jacki Marie said...

Shari, I'm sooo sorry to hear about your mom. I'm praying for you and your family at this time...

Margie H said...

Shari, I am so so sorry to hear about your mother's condition. All I can offer is a prayer of comfort for your mother and strength for all of you. We are here for you...

Babsarella said...

Sending you cyber-hugs and keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Lisa Carroll said...

there are no words, shari... i am so sorry.

lotsd of prayers for you and your family.

Barbara said...

Oh Shari,I am so very sorry.So very sorry.My thoughts are with you.
Barbara

Erica Hettwer said...

So sorry to hear this. Hugs for you and your family right now.

Andi (RrlScrapGal) said...

Oh my... Big heartfelt hugs to you... I went down this road with my father 20 years ago...

Big big big hold you tight hugs...
Big hugs...

Lucy Abrams said...

I'm so sorry Shari - I don't know what to say except I am thinking of you and your family and sending lots and lots of love.
xxx

Sarah said...

Not sure what to say other than I'm sorry. Sending hugs and praying for peace, comfort, and strength for you and your Mom.
Hugs,
Sarah

AnitaRex said...

Shari I am so sorry to hear of this. What a hard time to be going through. What amazing hard choices your mother has made. I pray that God will be with you during this time. Thinking and praying for you and your family.

Tiffany said...

Shari, I'm so sorry, my thoughts are with you and your family! Sending prayers for you right now!

JulieHRR said...

Sending you love. Gobs of love.

Michelle said...

Oh Shari, I am so very sorry to hear of your mom's condition. Hard times, indeed. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sending big HUGS your way, my friend! {{{HUGS!}}}

Anonymous said...

Hi, I found your blog.
I love you. And your mum, because without her, there would be no you and then my life would not be as good as it is. I only wish she had taught you to be less good at bowling and air hockey...
I want you guys to know that I'm thinking of you now and always. Peace and love
Grezza

Connie's Place said...

My heart goes out to you. My thoughts & prayers too!

Sheila D said...

I'll pray for peace and comfort for your mom and wish you the strength to get through this sad time. Please remember that love is all around you.

sideoats + scribbles said...

Hi Shari, sending you lots of big huge hugs. And more hugs.

mimijudy1975 said...

Shari, I am so sorry to her about your Mom. this is a very difficult time for all of you.Just know how very much support you are to your mom and take comfort in that. I learned how much support my daughters were for me when they were there for me .,especially during chemo. I admire your mother for making her choices known .
I will keep you in my prayers everyday and know that there are so many who love you even though we have never met you. God Bless all Of You.

amy said...

I'm so very sorry to hear this. I will be praying for your mom and your entire family. Big Big Big Hugs to you!!!

Lucille said...

Oh Shari,
My thoughts are with you and your family. Lucille K xoxo

Karen said...

Shari, I feel your pain. I lost my mom two weeks ago in the same way. She lived with me to the end with the help of hospice. That allowed her to stay at home and pass with dignity. I am so glad that I had the chance to take care of her and keep her comfortable in her final days. I am at peace and I know she was too. My best to you and your family, it is a difficult time and a dreadful disease.

Paula said...

nothing I can say to make you feel better, I am so sad for you. Wishing that you find the strength to get through this difficult time.

Debbie said...

so sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mom unexpectedly 6 years ago so I know what you are facing. I wish there was something I could say or do that would make it easier. I hope know that so many people care and are sending thoughts, prayers and hugs your way helps. remember to take time to take care of yourself while you are taking care of her.

joanna said...

Hi Shari,
You are an inspiration to us all.
So sorry to hear about your Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you during these hard times.

Deanna said...

Many prayers for peace and calmness for your Mom, you and your family.

Fondly,
Deanna

Paula Pascual said...

Hi Shari, this is really sad, but letting her go on her own terms is the hardest thing to do but also it is the best you can offer her now. Be strong, and take care of yourself as well.
Loads of love, Paula (Dawns' friend from England)

thestormyone said...

bless you and your family.

Absolutely Everything said...

Shari, so sorry to hear about your Mom, her illness and your family's impending loss...Mothers are such a special figure in our lives...I hope that all the wonderful memories will comfort you.
KAte Farricker
AbsolutelyEverything

Sherri Thompson said...

I'm so sorry to read about your mom. I hope you can spend as much time with her as possible. Take care...

Donna said...

I'm so very sorry to hear this update. I'm sending prayers to you and your family.

Michelle said...

Dearest Shari,

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know it is so very difficult.

I lost someone I love very much to cancer last April. Her final days were spent in Hospice too. Hours before she passed I brought our children up to say good-bye. It was very hard on all of us. After the kids said their goodbyes I had a moment alone with here. I told her how much I loved her and how I would watch over her daughter for her. When I went to kiss her goodbye there were 2 tears running down her cheeks. She heard me. She hadn't moved or opened her eyes in 2 days but she heard every word we said. Hold onto that. Talk to her. It will help you both so very much.

I am praying for you and your family at this very difficult time.

Sam said...

I lost my mum just over 3 weeks ago ... complications following an operation to remove cancer from her bowel. It's broken my heart and torn a hole in my world. My thoughts are with you and your family at this incredibly difficult time. Sam.

Jill said...

may you and your family find comfort in each other and your Mom at this difficult time...hugs to you all

LynneForsythe said...

my dear Shari...I was just thinking the other day...how I hadn't heard from you and was hoping your mom was ok....I was so very saddened to hear your new....huge hugs to you and know that I will be praying for your mom and your family!!!

Anthonette said...

Hi Shari, I'm so sorry to hear your mom's health is declining fast. I wish you strength as you go through this. Take care! Hugs.

IrishGirl said...

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I wish you, your Mother and your family courage and strength in the time ahead.

Karen D said...

In this time of letting go and letting love, I wish you the support of friends, family, and sharing memories. I pray for strength and comfort for all of you. You have touched so many of us with your amazing creativity, art, and grace. Hope that you know we now send you hugs via the Internet. -- Kari D

Suzanne C said...

I am so sorry Shari to hear this. My mom passed this past year unfortunately in very similar circumstances. I am feel for you and for your family at this really difficult time. I hope the pain is minimal. Blessings, prayers and hugs to you and your family.

judy said...

Shari,

My thoughts and prayers go out to you
and your family during this very
difficult time. It is a gift to
your mother to respect her wishes and
let her live out her days as she wishes to but I know it is also
very hard. I hope you and your family will find comfort from one another.

Judy said...

My heart aches for you. May God send you strength in this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Deirdre said...

Shari, I am so sorry to hear about your Mom's worsening condition. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you all.

Dotty Jo said...

please know that I am thinking of you and your Mom, jo x

Kathy (krolski) said...

So sorry to read this sad news. Sending you hugs and prayers Shari.

clwilker said...

Shari, My thoughts and prayers are with your Mom, you, and the rest of your family as you travel this path.

clwilker said...

Shari, my thoughts and prayers are with your Mom, you, and the rest of your family as you travel this path!

Sue McRae said...

So sorry to hear about your mother Shari. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

Nancy said...

Shari, you have my prayers as you navigate this difficult path. May the moments you have with your mom be sweet and comforting.

Anonymous said...

Thinking of you and your family during this incredibly difficult time.
Sharon D. from Canada

moccavanila said...

Shari...I'm so sorry to hear this..
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time

Hugs,
Vera

DominoDebi said...

Shari, I'm so very sorry to hear your mother has taken a turn for the worst. I'll pray she passes with as little pain as possible. Take care.

Sue McGettigan said...

So sorry to hear your Mom is not doing well. I hope your Hospice has a Palliative care team?

Blessings to you and your family.

Kimberly said...

Shari,
I follow your blog, and wanted to offer my condolences for the loss of your mother. It's so hard losing the ones we love. I lost my mother two years ago after being her care provider for 5 years. I miss her everyday, but know she is in a much better place and free from the pain she lived with for way to long. May you find stregnth and peace in the times shared together and memories that will carry you until you meet again. I loved the choir, it was absolutely beautilful. God bless

Allie Gower said...

OMG, this brought tears to my eyes. I was there ten years ago. I'm so sorry. I know this was a while ago, but I am thinking of you, since we just had Mother's Day.

God Bless!